People think a lot of different things about police officers. It's no secret, not all of these thoughts are good. However behind almost every man with a badge, is a family at home. We have learned over the last few years to make the most of what you have. Weekends that hubs is off work is family time, we try not to schedule much activity with anyone else just so we can enjoy our time as a family. I know as the kids get older it won't happen as often. One of the things that we do as a family is baseball. Thing 1 is on a team, Thing 2 is on another team. That's right 2 different teams, 2 different schedules, the works. Hubs however has found himself helping with Thing 2's tball team this year, at least when he is there. When I say helping, not only do I mean helping coach one of the bases and telling the kids when to stop and go, but also helping with crowd control. Let's face it, and 4, 5 and 6 it is as much crowd control as anything else.
So for all the folks who think the man writing you a ticket is a ____________ (insert ugly word here), just remember that somewhere there is a little fella waiting on daddy to get home to play ball.
Friday, April 27, 2012
Wednesday, April 18, 2012
Time
There are many situations that make you step back and go "Why did I do this to myself again?" This is usually sparked when my planner/calendar is extremely full. Well we are at that point right now. My planner is color coded. Pink highlighter for one boy, yellow for the other. Hubs work schedule is also written in, along with important stuff for both of our moms-doctor appts, out of town trips etc. In amongst all of that you have to make time to handle the everyday life things at home, laundry, dishes (that some how mount up even though no one actually eats at home) cleaning the bathroom (let's face it the house becomes a rest area only, used primarliy for its facilities).
Now let me just say that my family is not an overly busy family for about 10 months out of the year. I tell my kids that they can pick one thing to do at a time. Thing 1 came home from school the first of the year and said "Mom I wanna do cub scouts" the converstation then went like this
MOM: Well honey that is great but if you do cub scouts, then you can't play baseball.
THING: I can do both mom, it's easy.
Let me just say here that he is 7 and doesn't yet understand the total logistics of it all
MOM: You may be able to, but the person who is responsible for taking you to events can't do both. So you need to pick, do you want to be a scout, or a ball player.
Let me say here, that the Scouts organization is a grand thing, and I am not against my sons being one, but we aren't the go go go all the time kind of family so I made him pick.
Thing: Well, Mama, that's not really a hard choice to make...I'm a ball player, but can I play football to?
MOM: walks off to another room shaking head
The reason why I limit my kids on what they can and can't do activity wise is very simple. It is a 4 letter word, TIME. Given the schedule that HUBS has with work, and the chances that he has to work on a day he should be off, and the fact that I work 30 minutes from home; things have to be limited.
Right now both kids play baseball, one is on a teeball team, the other coach pitch. That's right, we have games the same night at different fields at the same time-not many because thankfully the coach is the same for both.
This goes back to the married single parent thing. What do you do when Hubs is working a shift, Thing 1 has a game at 715 in one town, and Thing 2 has a game at 7 in a totally different town, 15 minutes away? Pray that their grandma is around!!!
The joys of motherhood, wifehood and LEOhood!!!!!
Now let me just say that my family is not an overly busy family for about 10 months out of the year. I tell my kids that they can pick one thing to do at a time. Thing 1 came home from school the first of the year and said "Mom I wanna do cub scouts" the converstation then went like this
MOM: Well honey that is great but if you do cub scouts, then you can't play baseball.
THING: I can do both mom, it's easy.
Let me just say here that he is 7 and doesn't yet understand the total logistics of it all
MOM: You may be able to, but the person who is responsible for taking you to events can't do both. So you need to pick, do you want to be a scout, or a ball player.
Let me say here, that the Scouts organization is a grand thing, and I am not against my sons being one, but we aren't the go go go all the time kind of family so I made him pick.
Thing: Well, Mama, that's not really a hard choice to make...I'm a ball player, but can I play football to?
MOM: walks off to another room shaking head
The reason why I limit my kids on what they can and can't do activity wise is very simple. It is a 4 letter word, TIME. Given the schedule that HUBS has with work, and the chances that he has to work on a day he should be off, and the fact that I work 30 minutes from home; things have to be limited.
Right now both kids play baseball, one is on a teeball team, the other coach pitch. That's right, we have games the same night at different fields at the same time-not many because thankfully the coach is the same for both.
This goes back to the married single parent thing. What do you do when Hubs is working a shift, Thing 1 has a game at 715 in one town, and Thing 2 has a game at 7 in a totally different town, 15 minutes away? Pray that their grandma is around!!!
The joys of motherhood, wifehood and LEOhood!!!!!
Tuesday, April 10, 2012
New friends
Since Hubs has moved up in rank, he is meeting other officers from other departments. This is a glorious thing. Not only is it a great network thing, its a great Hubs thing. After a week in class a few weeks back, he found out that he and another detective share an interest. Arrowhead collecting. These two along with another non-LEO got together over the weekend and went and did a little searching for them. The kids and I enjoyed a morning at home with nothing to do other than watch cartoons.
Something you find once you get into law enforcement is that many of the people that you thought were your friend before, well let's just say they don't stick around very long once you earn a badge. So it becomes pretty obvious that most of your friends will be other officers. This has many advantages. One, you have a friend who truly understands what your job entails, stress wise, schedule and things like that. You also have a friend, that especially if they work the same shift as you, learns your tone and understands when you need help just by the way you announce your number when calling into dispatch. It also means if this new friend has a spouse, or significant other, then the families more than likely will become friends.
I am thankful for the friends I have made since this journey started. I am thankful even more for friends that Hubs has made and the ones I know are watching his back.
Something you find once you get into law enforcement is that many of the people that you thought were your friend before, well let's just say they don't stick around very long once you earn a badge. So it becomes pretty obvious that most of your friends will be other officers. This has many advantages. One, you have a friend who truly understands what your job entails, stress wise, schedule and things like that. You also have a friend, that especially if they work the same shift as you, learns your tone and understands when you need help just by the way you announce your number when calling into dispatch. It also means if this new friend has a spouse, or significant other, then the families more than likely will become friends.
I am thankful for the friends I have made since this journey started. I am thankful even more for friends that Hubs has made and the ones I know are watching his back.
Tuesday, April 3, 2012
Your sins will find you out
News broke today of an officer in our area being arrested. All though I am not 100% surprised given this particular officer's misgivings, it is still very sad. Far to often the Law enforcement community is not shown in a positive light. More often than not, attention is only placed on officers that have screwed up in some way. This is something that irks me to no end. However in this particular case the attention brought to this particular officer is of his own doings.
The circumstances behind are not of issue, it's the simple fact that very seldom do officers receive good publicity. Is it simply because we as a society only want the negative? Could it possibly be that these men and women are in a profession that is so under appreciated that no one thinks that positives are worth mentioning.
I mean honestly. How often do you hear of an officer going to talk to kids at school, or holding a child who is scared or hurt. These are the things that officers do, day in and day out. More than once I have seen my husband buy a meal for someone that needs help, or go eat lunch at the school with our son so kids will see him there and know who he is if they ever need him. Not to mention the countless number of times that he has gone out of his way to make sure that someone had the help they needed. He doesn't do it for attention. No he does it because it is part of who he is.
I wish just once you could see something good.
The circumstances behind are not of issue, it's the simple fact that very seldom do officers receive good publicity. Is it simply because we as a society only want the negative? Could it possibly be that these men and women are in a profession that is so under appreciated that no one thinks that positives are worth mentioning.
I mean honestly. How often do you hear of an officer going to talk to kids at school, or holding a child who is scared or hurt. These are the things that officers do, day in and day out. More than once I have seen my husband buy a meal for someone that needs help, or go eat lunch at the school with our son so kids will see him there and know who he is if they ever need him. Not to mention the countless number of times that he has gone out of his way to make sure that someone had the help they needed. He doesn't do it for attention. No he does it because it is part of who he is.
I wish just once you could see something good.
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